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《不做虎妈狼爸》是一本别具特色的家庭教育专著,作者旗帜鲜明地提出“不做虎妈狼爸”的观点。作者和天下父母一样,她爱孩子,值得我们学习的是,她还懂得怎样爱孩子。无论是家长还是老师,都应该好好读一读《不做虎妈狼爸》。
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《不做虎妈狼爸》书里有很多家长困惑的家庭教育热点问题,有作者和女儿、学生一起成长的一段段感人的故事。在作者眼中女儿既普通又独特,母女间不少烦恼带有普遍性。不管对女儿还是学生,她都抱有一颗感恩的心,享受和孩子们相处的每个日子。作者明确反对“虎妈狼爸”式的教育方法,提出,家庭教育首先要为孩子创造一个良好的学习和生活环境,其次要在尊重孩子的前提下,选择适合孩子的教育方式。不同孩子,其教育方式不同,就是同一孩子,在不同阶段其教育方式也不同,各得其所的教育才是最好的教育。
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刘燕芳,网名“燕无风雨”。家庭教育高级指导师、省级语文骨干教师、国际注册对外汉语高级教师。南京一中·实验学校副校长,江苏省家庭教育专家报告团成员、《好家长》杂志社专栏撰稿人、江苏省巾帼志愿者协会理事、公益组织“燕无风雨家庭教育俱乐部”创办人、“凤凰燕子亲子读书会”创办人、南京市网上家长学校“金博士”家庭教育咨询团成员。教育、教学管理经验丰富,曾多年担任高中班主任和语文教师。先后在全国各级各类地区面向校长、教师、家长、学生举行过百余场讲座。
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你是个善解人意的好妈妈,你的孩子应该是中国当代学生中很幸福的孩子!
——zpannie

让孩子经历痛苦,学会承受担当,这是父母有勇气的爱!赞赏!
——亲亲乔木

感人心者,莫先乎情,莫始乎言,文章情真意切,有理有据,可操作性强。
——圆珠笔

好一个充满智慧又让孩子愿意喜乐共享的老师!如果我的孩子遇上你这样的老师该有多幸运!有你相伴的孩子都是幸福的孩子!
——daisydot

爱是相互的,在教育上更是!你用爱打开了教育的大门之后,教育是多么幸福的事业!支持你!
——茶苦茶香

我是你博文忠实的读者,喜欢看你干净、活泼的文字!我在无锡听过你的讲座,你不仅写得好,讲得好,歌唱得也很好!欣赏!
——如影随形

看到一半的时候,笑了。笑到一半的时候,默然了。心生生地疼。想到了我的高三班主任。那么,他是怎样地过了那一个个煎熬的夜?祝福您,祝福所有的为人师表的老师!
——虚华
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不做虎妈狼爸
序言且行且思的教育者
引子不做虎妈狼爸
第一章 和孩子们一起成长作为妈妈,我幸福,我有一个很可爱的女儿,虽然她没有过人的天资,没有傲人的学习成绩,但在我眼中她就是那个既普通又独特的一个。作为老师,我庆幸,能有机会成天和天真烂漫的孩子在一起,我觉得这是我的福分,我珍惜和他们在一起的每个日子。和孩子们一起成长,真好!
1.1 写给女儿的信(一)
1.2 写给女儿的信(二)
1.3 写给女儿的信(三)
1.4 和女儿一起成长
1.5 和女儿一起追星
1.6 女儿暗恋小帅哥
1.7 妈妈,别怕,有我呢
1.8 妈妈,我想撕掉复习资料
1.9 苹果的故事
1.10 和女儿一起听水的声音
1.11 解读女儿语言中的密码
1.12 如何面对女儿的虚荣心
1.13 鼓励女儿挑战自我
1.14 女儿考砸了,很伤心
1.15 我和女儿谈幸福
1.16 我的德国女儿梅
1.17 今天我穿红裙子
1.18 一模考砸了,他想跳楼
1.19 和学生一起开一模家长会
1.20 除了分数,我们还能给学生留点什么不做虎妈狼爸目录
1.21 他愿意和家长交流了
1.22 李小鹏,加油
1.23 他的爱好是和老师作对
1.24 冷漠的孩子,我喜欢你啦
1.25 感谢我的学生
1.26 祝你们飞得更高更远
1.27 我教学生如何开小差
1.28 给初三学生的一封信
1.29 给高三学生的一封信
1.30 老师,人活着有什么意义
1.31 小光进步了
1.32 把你看成我的学生
1.33 欢迎澳大利亚学生
1.34 美国西点军校学生来我校
1.35 祝美国学生李安一路顺风

第二章 理智面对家庭教育中的困惑不同的孩子在成长过程中会遇到不同的问题,就是同一个孩子在成长的不同时期也会遇到不同的问题。孩子成长不停,家庭教育困惑不断。期望我对这些困惑的思考能给您一点启发。
2.1 如何引导孩子爱上阅读
2.2 家长应如何对待孩子上网问题
2.3 家长该不该让孩子上辅导班
2.4 家长该不该给孩子择校
2.5 家长该不该给孩子零花钱
2.6 家长该不该惩罚孩子
2.7 孩子爱吃零食,家长怎么办
2.8 孩子娇气,家长怎么办
2.9 如何让孩子学会尊重
2.10 家长如何同孩子谈死亡
2.11 如何接纳孩子的不良情绪
2.12 孩子与老师发生矛盾,家长怎么办
2.13 家长如何同老师沟通
2.14 请家长慎说“但是”
2.15 这样说,孩子愿意听
2.16 如何做个让孩子喜欢的妈妈
2.17 孩子成“差生”,家长怎么办
2.18 孩子考后心理问题及对策
2.19 孩子高考前,家长怎么做
2.20 如何看待听话和不听话的孩子
2.21 不想当元帅的士兵未必不是好士兵
2.22 如何看待“不能让孩子输在起跑线上”

第三章 还给孩子应有的权利我们常常把孩子看做自己的私有财产,剥夺了孩子应有的权利,其实孩子是他们自己,我们应该还给孩子应有的权利,让孩子走自己的路。
3.1 童年不只为未来做准备
3.2 还给孩子玩的权利
3.3 保护孩子的隐私权
3.4 让孩子做点白日梦
3.6 不要剥夺孩子劳动的权利
3.5 给孩子选择的权利
3.7 不要剥夺孩子说话的权利
3.8 别剥夺了孩子“痛”的权利
3.9 何时才能让孩子睡个好觉
3.10 怎能剥夺孩子运动的权利
3.11 让孩子走自己的路

第四章 扮演好现代父母的角色还给孩子应有的权利并不代表我们家长就可以撒手不管了,那么家长应该扮演什么样的角色呢?你想做怎样的家长呢?
4.1 家长扮演什么样的角色
4.2 请不要把爱的重负压在孩子身上
4.3 药家鑫父母之过
4.4 “家暴”李阳父亲角色的缺失
4.5 李双江夫妇教子之过
4.6 小悦悦父母的责任
4.7 顺应孩子身心发展的客观规律
4.8 莫让孩子离这世界太远
4.9 我们留什么财富给孩子
4.10 莫做虚荣的父母
4.11 学做懒妈妈
附录:
附录1 0-12岁孩子阅读书目推荐
附录2 一位诚恳的家长给我的留言我的回复
附录3 母亲的教育之道
附录4 关于“燕无风雨家庭教育俱乐部”
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且行且思的教育者
缪建东
中国人历来重视教育,无论是建国君民,还是修身齐家,都要通过教育这一重要途径来实现。如今“狼爸”、“虎妈”现象又掀起新一轮全社会关注教育的浪潮,各种争鸣的存在说明教育问题受到人们前所未有的重视。与此形成强烈反差的则是,到底什么是好的教育?如何开展健康的教育?教育者的教育素养包括哪些方面?家庭教育与学校教育的关系如何处理?如何弘扬先进的教育文化?这些现实问题亟须我们做出明确中肯而不是似是而非的回答。
刘燕芳的这部教育手记,就是回答以上问题过程中做出的实实在在的努力。正如她本人所说,“我不会躲在书斋里搞研究,我会深入到很多家庭,和家长、孩子做朋友。积累一些第一手的资料,努力为家长提供实践性强的家庭教育方法”。无论是作为母亲还是作为教师,她都在用心、用情、用爱去尊重、理解、关爱和认可孩子,注重个人的觉醒,张扬个人的权利,主张个人的幸福,让孩子成长为一个大写的站立的公民,让他们在宽松、人道、自由的环境中得到自由全面的发展。她在思考中行动,在行动中思考,正是这种实践智慧才生长出如此丰厚与灵动的观点。
陶行知先生说过,教育者要具有“科学的头脑与母亲的心肠”。有科学的头脑,便能理性与冷静地等待与看护儿童真实生命的成长;有母亲的心肠,便能始终用人类最原始、最本真、最强大的情感与儿童进行骨肉相连、血脉相通、休戚与共的交往。作为家长和教师的教育者若能用“科学的头脑与母亲的心肠”来实施教育,那真是孩子最大的福气。刘燕芳就是这样的一位教育者。她既是一位深受学生热爱的好老师,也是一位幸福的好母亲,这本书是她多年来所撰写教育手记的合集,她自谦为“散、乱、杂”,但是我在其中却读出了“真、善、美”。其真,体现于她毫不留情、锋芒毕露地针砭时弊。书中对药家鑫父母、“家暴”李阳、李双江夫妇甚至小悦悦的父母提出尖锐的批评,这种批评不仅仅是情感上的控诉,而且还是从根源上讲清原因,这是一种基于教育规律所作出的客观、理性的分析与总结,极具说服力。字里行间都在试图提醒人们:教育处于危险之中。其善,体现于她“不独亲其亲,不独子其子”的慈悲与博爱之心。教师是一个具有慈善性质的职业,教师一定要有一颗善良的心,无论这个孩子来自什么家庭,是聪明还是迟钝,是热情还是冷漠,都要以“母亲的心肠”去观察他们,给他们机会,允许他们发泄情绪,尊重与倾听他们,建立起一种包容而不是排斥的小环境,从根本上祛除威胁儿童福祉的那些力量。所以,孩子会热烈地拥抱她,会对她说:“老师,您像妈妈一样”,“老师,我们想抱抱你”。
其美,体现于她能用一双发现美的眼睛去体会美、创造美。教育应当永远让人充满希望,鼓舞人们热爱生命、热爱生活。她会和女儿一起听水的声音;和孩子一起讨论幸福是什么;会在大考前带着大家唱班歌《阳光总在风雨后》;会在每次的家长会上尽可能从不同角度表扬所有的学生;会在学生毕业前夕悄悄地流泪,悄悄地给学生写信;也会不辞辛劳地成立“燕无风雨家庭教育俱乐部”,让更多的家庭与孩子能走到一起,共享成长的经验与过程。家庭教育不仅仅是“家中”的教育,学校教育也不仅仅是“学校中”的教育,他们都是发生在局域场中活生生的社会教育,也是完整的人的教育。在刘燕芳的教育实践中,我们看到了这样的事实,家庭、学校、社会完全可以形成一个完整、互助、互补的共同体,其中所有人都能进行高质量的沟通和互动,从而实现全民全人生教育。其关键在于作为教育者的成人首先要提高自身的教育素养,让儿童从各个不同的生活空间里感受到相辅相成的关注与关怀,接受到多元但本质相同的理念,帮助所有儿童在当下和未来的生活中获得幸福与成功。而成人的教育素养必须经过充分的反思、调查、培训和自我教育,从“自在”走向“自觉”。这些宝贵的认识在她的这本书中随处可见,而且有许多实际事例为证,便于广大家长和教师实事求是地加以借鉴与吸取。在文化兴国、文化强国的今天,以教育文明促进社会文明,已成为时代的使命,从始于家庭和学校的文化建设出发带动社会整体文明水平的提升,形成家庭教育、学校教育与社会教育的良性互动,是重建社会主义核心价值体系、实现中华民族伟大复兴的一条可靠稳妥的路径。我们高兴地看到一些优秀成果的陆续问世,也希望这些成果能普遍地被人们所知晓,并激发和催生更多更好的思想与行动的产生。
2012年元月于南京师大随园
(序言作者为南京师范大学教授、博导,中国成人教育协会学术委员,中国家庭教育学会理事,中国教育学会家庭教育专业委员会常务理事,江苏省家庭教育研究会常务副会长,南京市家庭教育学会副会长。)

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Sellers in China will ship their orders within 1-2 business days once the order is placed. Packages are sent to our consolidation warehouse in China and combined there. Our Yami consolidation warehouse will directly ship the packages to you via UPS. The average time for UPS to ship from China to the United States is about 10 working days and it can be traced using the tracking number. Due to the pandemic, the delivery time may be delayed by about 5 days. The package needs to be signed by the guest. If the receipt is not signed, the customer shall bear the risk of loss of the package.

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Yami Consolidated Shipping $9.99(Free shipping over $69)


Seller will ship the orders within 1-2 business days. The logistics time limit is expected to be 7-15 working days. In case of customs clearance, the delivery time will be extended by 3-7 days. The final receipt date is subject to the information of the postal company.

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You may return product within 30 days upon receiving the product. Items returned must be new in it's original packing, including the original invoice for the purchase. Customer return product at their own expense.

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